Hi, my name is
Niki Davis-Fainbloom
Writer, educator, researcher and coach.
Niki Davis-Fainbloom (MA) is recognized as one of NYC’s most adept sexuality and relationship experts. Niki has been featured in numerous publications, facilitated education workshops worldwide, and is an innovative sex and relationship coach. The goal of her work is to give people the skills to have more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships. She uses scientifically backed research, practical instructions, and a pinch of humor to help folks talk about sex, boost their sexual confidence, and increase their pleasure.
You want great sex and deeply fulfilling relationships.
More pleasure. More connection. More communication. More understanding. More orgasmic and mind-blowing sex.
Gain insight into your desires and release any shame holding you back.
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You want the best sex of your life. But you’re dealing with some not so sexy struggles.
If you’ve ever asked yourself…
“Can I increase my confidence in the bedroom?”
“How can we reignite the spark in our relationship?”
“How can I improve erectile issues?”
“Are my sexual fantasies normal?”
“How are my past traumas affecting my sex life?”
“How do I increase my sex drive?”
A sex and relationship coach may be your answer.
Have online or in-person conversations with a professional to determine the steps you need to take to improve your sex life, intimacy, and relationships.
I’ve sat in a bar and given hands-on advice to a client who needed assistance talking to attractive strangers around him. I went on nature walks discussing intimate issues with an autistic client who felt uncomfortable with eye contact and enjoyed chatting among the trees. I had an emergency de-escalation session with a client and their long-term partner when their cross-dressing fetish was revealed.
You will receive tailored coaching for your unique needs. I believe in out-of-the-box services- we’re going to experiment to figure out what actually works for you.
I’ve created a safe and inclusive space, free of the stigma surrounding sexual pleasure.
Who do I work with?
I work with folks of all ages, relationship dynamics, and backgrounds.
My specialties include:
Fetish exploration
Low sexual desire
Getting the spark back in long-term relationships
Libido differences in relationships
Erectile dysfunction
Building sexual confidence
Sexual Trauma
Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory
Getting clients attuned to their personal “turn-ons” and “turn-offs” as well as their partner’s
Relationship navigation when a partner is involved in sex work
Are you boosting your health and happiness for a long and satisfying sex life?
As a society, we don’t see examples of healthy sexual communication. You may have learned about sex exclusively through porn. Or from that one sex ed teacher (who was actually the gym teacher) who showed you a close-up of what birth looks like instead of teaching you about pleasure. You may have experienced shame for your desires. Or maybe you weren’t given the tools to figure out what you want.
Many of us have been misinformed and given inadequate sex education—it’s no wonder you have a ton of questions, and your experiences don’t look like they do in the movies. You may feel unfulfilled in your relationships or confused about your sex life.
Anxious, stressed out, and uncertain?
If this describes you, you’re not alone. Millions of people worldwide struggle to have pleasurable sex. The truth is, your sex life can be better.…
The first step towards having mind-blowing, knee-shaking, heart-racing, satisfying sexual pleasure is getting comfortable with communicating. So, let’s talk!
What Folks Say.
So how have I helped create long-lasting change in people’s lives?
“Working with Niki is a breath of fresh air... it’s so refreshing to have the space to talk about my desires and preferences as the natural, human elements that they are. Her empathy, knowledge, and good humor have enabled me to open up about my hangups and work through them with a light, understanding approach.”
“Niki helped me overcome the shame I experienced from my (a bit out there) fetish. Her charisma, insightful (albeit sometimes strange) homework assignments and extremely non-judgmental attitude helped me create change in the way I thought about my desires, find new partners, and become more confident and clear about what I wanted (and not freaking out potential partners by going in too hard too fast).”
“Niki helped my partner, and I step away from the habits we have developed over the years and get back in touch with the exploratory, raw part of our sexual relationship. Since starting work with Niki, we have had more sex in more varied ways than before! It feels like someone is on the journey with us, rooting for us and giving us helpful tips along the way!”
“I was shy during my first session with Niki, but she created a safe and non-judgmental space. She helped me explore the impact of my catholic upbringing on my sexuality and gave me the tools to get comfortable talking about sex for the first time.”
“I don’t want to say Niki gave me my first orgasm because that sounds wrong, but it was through her ability to help me get out of my head and into my body, her homework assignments, and her encouragement that I got there. Patience is key. Change didn’t happen overnight, but through her guidance and support, I got there. It was a happy day when I told her I didn’t need to see her anymore, as I was ready to move on with my magic wand!”
“Niki has been absolutely fantastic to work with. She has the perfect balance of being very brutally honest with you, and at the same time also being very compassionate and empathetic. She never just tells you what you want to hear, but still can be very encouraging, complimentary and positive. Niki is very solution focused and always brings you back to what can we do today and moving forward to improve your situation and improve your life moving forward. She is extremely easy to talk to, open up to, and share anything with, she asks very good questions and is an incredible listener. Niki is never judgmental and has a very open-minded point of view on the world today. Her coaching sessions have been enormously helpful and valuable for me and I highly recommend her to anyone.”
Together, we got this!
Don’t let shame and uncertainty keep you from having the best sex of your life. Check out all the different ways I can help you feel confident and in control of your sexual experiences.
